Fear Triangle - Hero, Villain or Victim
I am thankful to know the fear triangle and its manifestation. I understand that fear is a good thing that is meant to help us. It is an evolutionary instinct from nature. It morphs shape as victim, villain and hero. I used to fall into the victim trap frequently because I was fearful of my future and my career or whatever unknown problem I had at that time.
Sometimes I used to be a hard critic or an asshole to someone who makes mistakes. I know I could be much kinder and much more forgiving, but something inside triggers me to try to be the harshest critic. Sometimes it happens to me. I am my own harsh critic. The voice in my head beats the shit out of me and I feel ashamed.
Sometimes the same fear comes out as a hero. That I am a vanquished or valorous person trying to save the world and others. It happens because I am fearful or dreading losing some relationship or losing something from others. I become a protector or a hero to not lose that.
Ironically, I can feel like a victim and a hero and a villain in a span of a few minutes. Like the Vikram character in Anniyan, switching between the characters seamlessly, I too have the capability to switch between the roles seamlessly. I feel there is nothing wrong with it. Fear and anger are our primal emotions. Millions of years of evolution have given these emotions to protect us and increase our progeny.
Anger means that there is a threat. Fear means the same in a different manner. Fear is a breach of territory and I need to save myself or my tribe. Fear was needed to protect me from predators or other tribes.
All I need to know and do is something simple. Recognise that you are in mode and be aware of it. Am I a hero or a villain or a victim in this situation? That awareness slowly brings clarity and helps one to move forward.